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I love you guys, but spare me your sarcasm.

by Nisha Karthigeyan

Listen, smile, agree. And then do whatever the fuck you were gonna do anyway.’
Robert Downey Jr
.

(Photo by Christian Lambert from Unsplash)

Every time we level up in life, we have to readjust our boundaries. what was okay before, no longer works. The people in our lives, self care rituals, the environments, and situations we engage with must all adjust and meet our new vibrational frequency, in order to be sustained.

I understand sarcasm. People use it often in their interactions. We all do. While on most occasions it is supposed to indicate friendly banter, it is belittling to many.

Here I share my thoughts about the harmful kind. I have noticed how, for some people it’s practically the primary language, absolutely intended specifically to make the other person feel stupid. When you’re always sarcastic, people won’t want to be around you because people don’t want to feel stupid.Sarcasm has a two-faced quality: it’s both funny and mean.

In their defence, I could say that it gives them an internal satisfaction, inner peace and a feeling that could be compared to a-punch-in-the-face through their mean words.
Not only is it rude, but I’ve found that people who are “always sarcastic” tend to be unfunny.
I have ceased to interact with many friends because of their terrible addiction for self depreciation and when you don’t play the ball with them, they feel strained and nurture this obsessive need to spew nursed bitterness.
Often, many of them are left wondering why I don’t speak to them anymore.

I feel attracted to charming men and women. People who exude charm assume that no body is boring; they realize that when you’re contemplating a person’s story or their passions you are getting for more information about them, and they’re going to value you for this.

I am forty and have had a fair share of bullying and sarcastic friends in my journey yet. I can say confidently that I have learnt my way around this terror. Some of them are unrelenting. They would want to figure out why you wouldn’t want to connect with them anymore, as you learn to live around them. It’s a tongue in cheek situation. It is the easiest to ignore them and make it known in polite ways, that perhaps you are busy or would connect with them at a time soonest when you can.
People that like to be vindictive with words and poke fun at somebody, apparently in a friendly situation, really don’t have much going on with their intellectual mechanisms and have a lot of growing up to do. I mean really how boring do you have to be to take pleasure in somebody elses embarrassment and unease. I can think of a million and one things I’d rather do, than that.

Over the years, I told myself, that most of the time when people point out others faults, its to draw attention away from their own. I don’t have the skill for reverse sarcasm and I convince myself again, that I am a decent human being and I am better than that right?

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Walking In My Shoes

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Walking in my shoes, one step at a time,
Looking at the world, through kaleidoscope eyes,
Shadows in the dark, a midsummer night,
Feeling like a kid, catching fireflies.

I’ve been bullied and ignored,
Wonder what I worried for,
I can see there’s no place to hide,
I can see through all the noise and the lies.

Walking in my shoes, right after the storm,
Looking at my world, all broken and torn,
Lifting my arms, swimming back to the shore,
Building a bridge, stronger than before.

I’ve been angry, and in turn,
Gotten even, gotten burned,
I can see there’s no place to hide.
I can see through all the noise and the lies.

Do what you love,
love what you do,
Be yourself.

Don’t let nobody tell you,
You can’t sing the blues,
Don’t let nobody tell you,
You can’t touch the moon.

The sun is out, a brand new dawn,
Iridescent and warm,
not a cloud in the sky.

Today, the sun has no place to hide,
and can see through all the pollution and the lies,
and watch me
Walking in my shoes,
One step at a time.

Connie Song 2020


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