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Why Medium is like Yoga

Why Medium is like Yoga to me

It helps me stay calm and breathe easy

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Have you even seen those before and after infomercials where a character talks about a product and how it changed his/her life? Well, it goes something like this — “Hi viewers (really means to say hello to all the silly fellows who believe anything that they read or see or hear), six months back I was a lonely fat person but after I started using this amazing product, I have reduced my weight, toned up and I am dating also now.” That for me is a before and after infomercial. I am sorry if the technical term for this kind of advertisement is something else.

Medium is like this miraculous product for me. Only, it helped me calm down, breathe clean, uncomplicated air and gave me a platform to write the way I love to write, without being judgmental. I don’t have to maintain a blog with unpublished articles anymore. I don’t have to write in a journal and think of a zillion odd places to hide it in. Medium gives my the much-needed anonymity and the freedom to just be.

At the same time, I get to read and comment on a public platform, without expecting a backlash. Now, i can comment without being worried that my relatives or friends will call me up to find out why i wrote that or why i appreciated that post.

All the inner peace material I ever looked for, is all available on Medium so I don’t really bother with the Tree pose anymore. What about you? Found it yet? The sanctum for all things uncomplicated….?


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Optimize The Voices In Your Head

Just keep in mind: the more we value things outside our control, the less control we have.” — Epictetus

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I wrote about the voices in our heads’ in this post. After rereading that post, I realized that I never mentioned our desire to form an opinion and optimize those “thoughts” so they don’t occur again. This is a fundamental flaw in our reasoning that enables those voices to continue talking and us to continue hearing them.

When we hear a voice inside our head — a voice which we have no control over — instead of letting it go and focusing on the task, most of us tend to hold onto it. We spin it over inside our head and have an inner desire to optimize it by forming an opinion about that voice.

Those of us who do this think that this will make the voice stop and prevent it from talking again. I got some news for you. This doesn’t work. Far from it working, it does the exact opposite. It gives energy to those inner voices so they continue talking.

Our attention is precious but we don’t treat it as such. Those of use who hold onto those voices — we willingly put our attention for sale at such a low price that everyone wants a piece of it. And, because of this, everyone gets a piece of it except us.

When we hear a voice inside our head out of nowhere — while reading something, talking to a friend, or doing some sort of activity — why do we feel the need to hold onto those voices and take ownership. Just because we can hear them and it is coming from within, it doesn’t mean that those voices are ours.

“Our attention is precious but we don’t treat it as such.”

We are what we consciously choose and believe in. We forget this when we hear those voices and hold onto them because we think those are ours. We want to prove to ourselves that those voices aren’t ours — we can’t be thinking these thoughts — that’s why we want to form an opinion about them. We want to try to change them so when they do occur again, they will occur in a way that is reasonable and resonates with our thinking. Or, so they don’t occur again.

I tried and tested this method. It doesn’t work. The only reason why it doesn’t work is because those voices — although they may be coming from within (according to the way they appear to me) — they aren’t mine and don’t represent my thinking. That’s why when I try to change them, they don’t talk to me in a changed way. They say what they have always said. Furthermore, I just make the situation worse by responding to them so they feel welcomed and continue coming back because I gave them importance.

“When we hear a voice inside our head out of nowhere, why do we feel the need to hold onto those voices and take ownership.”

Just like we have no control over what a person says when we are talking to them, we have no control over these voices. Just like we can’t change a person, we can’t change what these voices tell us.

What I found was that I need to keep in mind that these voices aren’t mine so I form a barrier between me and them. By doing this, I separate myself from these voices and this helps me to distinguish them from my thoughts. Furthermore — although it is difficult to do — maintaining my attention on the present and on the task at hand always works. Always.

I know this isn’t easy to do but I also know that I need to do this if I want to maintain my peace of mind. Those voices can’t be changed and can’t be silenced. However, I can be deaf to them by focusing on what I can control and never leaving the present. I hope this gives you an idea about what to do when those voices occur.

Humans tend to be after complex, hard to do solutions for things that appear complex to us. But usually these things have simple solutions. And things that appear complex to us are usually simple in and of themselves but we make them complicated by overthinking about them.

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